Do you feel that your child behaves well at home but then once he or she is in school, you receive a completely different message from the teacher? For example, at school, do you hear that your child has a hard time getting along with certain children, disrespects the teacher, hits, bites, cries, or has temper tantrums? As a parent, this can be quite frustrating if you don’t know why this may be occurring. Read along to learn what you can do about it.
Without your child knowing, observe how your child behaves at home and write it down in a journal. Does your child behave well with siblings? How does he or she play and respond to playdates that you set up? Watching your child in different environments will help you get a sense of when and where your child gets along best with others and when and where he or she may struggle to “play nice.”
Stay connected to your child’s teacher. Open communication with teachers and supervisors about where your child may be struggling in school will help you to handle the situation in a healthy manner from home. If your child struggles with sharing, it can be something you take more time to show your child how to do at home. If your child throws temper tantrums when he or she doesn’t get his or her way at school, you can work with your child on ways to deal with emotions in a more calm and effective way. Also ask your child’s teacher about for some ideas, tips, and effective ways to teach your child how to work through whatever emotions he or she may be experiencing when at school. Correcting the issue in the home, where your child feels most safe, will help your child carry what he or she has learned at home, in the classroom.
Ask your child’s teacher if you can quietly observe your child’s behavior in-class. You will then be able to see how your child behaves when triggered, and then can have a better idea of how to handle it in a healthy way. Parents and teacher working as a team to correct a child’s behavioral issue at school will truly benefit your child in the long run. It is hard for parents to learn that their child may be having a hard time at school when they act a different way at home, but don’t be discouraged. As young children start school and learn to interact with other children their age, it definitely is a learning process on how to engage socially with others. A little extra time and attention to correct a behavioral problem that your child may be dealing with in school will benefit your child greatly in the long run.
Remember, open communication with your child’s teacher and your child is of utmost importance, while remaining calm, loving, and supportive!