How to Encourage Loving Sibling Relationships

It’s common, almost expected, for sisters and brothers to argue here and there. But wouldn’t it be amazing if children could learn at an early age how to respect each other and be kind to each other without getting in fights and arguments? If your children have frequent battles more often than not, we encourage you to read this blog to help you heal and repair their squabbling relationship. After all, kindness starts at home and that doesn’t mean just between parents and children…but with siblings being kind to each other as well.

Causes of Sibling Rivalry Include but Are Not Limited to:

  • Difficulty sharing toys

  • Competing for their parents’ attention

  • If they feel they’re being compared to another sibling (i.e. “Why can’t you be sweet like your sister/brother?”)

Ways to End Sibling Rivalry:

  • Don’t compare one child to another – Each child and his or her personality is unique!

  • Validate each child’s feelings even if you don’t agree with them or think they’re wrong. Children want to be heard and validated – Actually, doesn’t everyone want this?

  • LISTEN to your children’s complaints…there may be an underlying issue that you can pin point from hearing your children out.

  • Make time to spend quality time with each child one-on-one. Nurturing each relationship with your children will grow your bond and their sibling bonds as well.

  • Don’t allow your children to call each other names. Explain to them that they must show love and respect to each other and that unkind behavior is not acceptable.

How to End Sibling Quarrels:

  • Sometimes, children are going to argue. You don’t need to get involved in every sibling argument your children have. If it’s not an intense argument, let them try to work it out themselves. This will grow their independence and show them that you trust them to correct the problem. If they start name calling or hitting, of course, step in then.

  • We recommend lecturing your children on their quarrels when they verbally and physically hurt each other and not too often after that – except if they’re younger and learning how to communicate and share.

  • Remain calm, patient, and loving. Your children follow your example so if you treat them the way you want to be treated, they will learn to treat each other the same way.