Facts about Making Friends

When children are young, it can either be really easy or quite difficult for your child to make friends. It depends on how social he or she is – If your child is shy, it can make making friends a bit of a challenge. Every child needs to learn the skill of making – and keeping – friends. Not only does having friends make life more fun, but it also is linked to children doing well in school! Parents can help children learn how to make friends, especially if their child is more on the shy side. Learn some great facts about friendship building by reading further into this blog!

When children learn to make friends and maintain those friendships through play time, healthy communication, and learning how to correct disagreements, they tend to:

  • Have a higher self-esteem

  • Adjust smoothly in school and perform better academically

  • Develop healthy social skills by learning to communicate well and resolve problems quickly and kindly

  • Engage in less “risky behaviors” as teenagers

  • Have less mental health issues as adults than those who didn’t have close long-lasting childhood friends

We truly believe that actions speak louder than words ever could so we recommend that parents model healthy behaviors when communicating with others (friends, family, and strangers) day to day. We recommend parents be involved in helping their children learn to make and keep good friends. Ways you can do this include:

  • Coordinating with other children’s parents to make weekly play dates for the children to play together – This could be a great opportunity for you to connect with the parents on a deeper level as well!

  • Practice kindness and patience with anyone you come in contact with so your child learns to communicate and connect with others in a healthy way

  • Help your child learn to express her or her feelings with effective words and body language

  • Help your child learn to be a good listener, friend, and host when friends come over to play

  • Teach your child polite manners and how to be grateful and appreciative (including “Please” and “Thank you”)

  • Explain what being fair is to your child and how to share, take turns, and play nice with others

  • Teach your child about being kind to others and why we don’t make fun of others – modeling how to love others well

Children are like sponges. They soak up everything around them and learn firsthand from their parents how to act, speak, engage with others, etc. Make sure to be a positive role model and have open and loving communication with your child.